Hi jrb,
Please do try the update on your iPad, and also update SD to 3.14.4.260, then try connecting using the PilotAware UDP option - (preferably with the FLARM option deselected in SD) and let us know what happens.
From conversations with Tim Dawson last week, what you have described with your iPhone is exactly what they expect to happen with the SD Mod contained in 3.14.4.260, but I can’t test it as I have already used the ‘FLARM prompt’ workaround on my iPad.
Regards
Peter